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Only Love.

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It’s been a crazy few weeks here on planet Earth.

Life has changed immensely for most human beings.

People are frightened and stressed and wondering what tomorrow will bring.

Some people even say the world is ending.

But what is really happening….is the beginning of the Great Awakening.

People all over the world are being forced to question everything they ever knew to be true. And although this is quite terrifying to most, it’s actually a really great thing.

The world as we know it IS ending. But not how you think.

Three years ago my entire world as I knew it ended when I caught my husband cheating. I knew it couldn’t be resolved. I knew I had to start completely over with 3 innocent children whose lives were about to drastically change without any kind of notice. Almost overnight. Seemingly without any kind of warning.

I spent a decade of my life working and building and giving myself 100% to something only to have it all torn down in the blink of an eye.

I had to adjust every single move I made. Every comfort I ever had in this life was gone in an instant. The weight of the world was dropped onto my shoulders, and I broke down. And hated myself for breaking down. And never thought I would ever recover or have any kind of semblance of a “normal” life again.

It was scary. It was stressful. It was tragic. It was fucking hard.

But as time went on I began to realize that it was the best thing that ever could have happened to me. I realized that everything I knew to be true in my life was just someone else’s version of what reality should be.

I slowly freed myself from the shackles of expectation from my peers. From my family and friends. From myself.

I began to see things for exactly what they were. I swallowed my pride and my sorrow and self-pity and then came to realize that my life could be whatever I wanted it to be as long as I could learn how to control my own emotions. And that took having to take a deep, long, uncomfortable look inside of myself.

It wasn’t fun. It wasn’t easy. It was extremely painful. And massively lonely.

But as time went on I started to figure out that there was much more to this life than just what was going on in mine.

I found greater purpose when I got in touch with myself for the first time in my life. Because once I was able to do that, I realized that everyone has struggles. And heartbreaks. And pain. And loneliness. And once I came to that realization, I’ve never felt alone again.

I was no longer focused on having nice things in my life. I was focused only on healing people. People just like me. People who really only ever wanted to be seen, heard, accepted, and appreciated. And loved.

And that is when I made it my ultimate mission in life to become a healer. In any way that I knew how. Art, music, poetry, laughter. Hugs. Lending an ear. Giving honest advice. Actually really getting to know people for who they are, not what they had to offer me.

Everything I am is love now. Nothing will ever be able to change that.

I went through my dark night of the soul. And then I went through my own personal Great Awakening. I realized through all of this what my purpose is. What ALL of our purpose is. Simply to love.

People have funny ideas about what love is. But I have come to fully understand what it really means.

It means being understanding. And sympathetic. And encouraging. And courageous. And strong. And accepting that others have insecurities that cause them to act out or act in ways that aren’t always so nice. But being confident enough to know that whatever they are doing is a reflection of their feelings about themselves. Because they were probably never loved correctly. And making it a point to make sure they know that YOU love them no matter what.

Love doesn’t mean you have to keep someone actively in your life. Or tolerate their ridiculous bullshit. Like your pissed off immature boyfriend trying to piss you off by sending you a picture of some other girl sitting on his couch in a shirt of his you always wore every time you spent the night. Or your own son smashing your tv screen out of anger. Or your sister excommunicating you from her life over a very minor disagreement. Or the idiot at the grocery store during a staged fake apocalypse ready to fist fight you over the last roll of toilet paper. It is possible to love people you may never speak to again. Love is acceptance. Love is forgiveness. Love is understanding.

We’re all going through a lot right now with everything going on in the world. But if you think about it…..we’re all ALWAYS going through a lot…even when the world is seemingly more stable than it is right at this very moment.

What the world needs right now is love.

That’s all it ever needs.

Everyone on the planet is being forced to awaken.

The veil is being lifted.

The truth is being exposed.

And the only thing I know to be true in this life is this:

All we need is love.

Be the love.

Be the comfort.

Be the candle in the window.

Be the water to quench someone’s thirst.

And expect nothing in return for it.

And accept that by doing these things, you’ll probably only get hurt.

And be ok with that.

All I’ll ever do from here on out is love absolutely everyone I come in contact with.

I think the world needs that at all times, no matter how good or bad things are going.

Be the light. Be the gentle hand. Be the person everyone calls upon. Let that be your purpose.

Shed everything you ever knew to be true and let only love motivate you.

And love passionately.

And to all of humanity: I see you. I feel you. I get you. I got you. You’ll never be alone as long as I’m here. ❤

I love you all.

#loveoneanother

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“ADHD” is a Superpower!

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Disclaimer: I am NOT a psychiatrist or a psychologist. These are all just my own thoughts and observations.

Society these days seems to be an out-of-tune orchestra of mentally ill human beings roaming about the Earth looking for ways to fill the void. In some ways, that’s exactly what it is. But if you look at things from a different perspective, you will find that there is much more that you’re not seeing. The truth.

The truth is that mental illnesses are superpowers. The “ordinary” people of the world only want us to believe that people with mental illnesses are “sick” and need help. The truth is that people with mental illnesses are just a little more enlightened and gifted than the others. They have extra senses that defy the logic of what is known about contemporary biology and puzzle scientists everywhere. So science itself has deemed anything about the human brain that it just can’t figure out collectively as a “disorder.”

The meaning of disorder can be taken one of two ways.
1.) Something that needs to be put back into order.
2.) A necessary component in a complex equation.

I choose to see it as the second way. In order for progress to occur in humanity we need a dynamic, creative, robust mix of minds. We need a large group of people who all think the same way in order for the structure of society to be maintained. But we also need people who think differently mixed in to question everything, disseminate new ways of thinking, and inspire independent thinking and imagination. Disorder is critical to not only the progress of mankind, but its survival.

In a perfect world, people with mental illness would be elevated and given the right environment and tools they need to thrive and create new possibilities for the progress of mankind. Sadly, however, they are typically pushed aside and looked at as problems.

The rules under which our society is governed doesn’t like disorder. Those who govern our society like everything to be simple, cut, and dry. They seek control in order to protects THEIR ideas of how life should be. And because of that, they banish the gifted people of the world by labeling them as mentally ill.

Mental illness is in the eye of the beholder.

Insane, I know. All of this sounds absolutely insane.

But…I’m right.

My 8-year-old son was recently diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. He was causing disruption in class and had to be put on half days. He refused to learn math facts and spelling words. He was isolating himself and telling his teachers that he just doesn’t like people and would rather be alone.

I was not exactly shocked. My youngest boy has always been different. He has always gotten extremely over-stimulated during anything other than one-on-one interaction. Put him in a group, and it’s allllll over! He likes to enterain. He likes to make people laugh. He likes to be silly and creative. He has no problem ever telling anyone anything about themselves that he notices. He wants to connect. He wants to talk. He has a lot to talk about. He has ideas. He has pictures in his mind that he wants everyone else to see. He refuses to conform. He doesn’t like to waste time on anything that does not inspire him.

He is BRILLIANT!

The truth is, my boy does not have a mental illness.

He has a superpower.

He has the ability to see things for exactly what they are.
He has an extremely rare passion to learn about deep, meaningful topics.
He has the biggest heart in the world for animals and nature.

He has a sharp intution that allows him to perceive anything phony or negative. This is why he rejects involvement with so many people. He sees through the masks. He knows a person at their core immediately. He knows who is worth knowing and who is not for him within minutes of meeting someone new. And the kid is ALWAYS right.

He doesn’t “fit” in. And I’m super grateful for that. He’s not like most people who fall in line at every command. He doesn’t look to authority for answers….he looks within himself. He doesn’t make friends easily, because he is not willing to let just anyone with a smile on their into his little world; he looks for more than that.

The truth is, the only thing that is “wrong” with my boy is the fact that his mind cannot be controlled by anyone but himself. And the heirarchy of our society finds that super inconvenient.

A person who can’t be conditionally programmed is a threat to the system.

A person who can’t be conditionally programmed is a threat to the rule-makers.

A person who can’t be conditionally programmed is a threat to the government.

A person who can’t be conditionally programmed is a threat to industry.

A person who can’t be conditionally programmed is a threat to indoctrination of all forms.

People with mental illnesses do all of the above, and as a result are labelled as “ill” and treated like aliens. They are ostracized and made to feel inadequate or broken. They are cast out of standard cirlces and looked down upon.

The truth is…ordinary people are just asleep. They can’t see the things that “mentally ill” people can see. They are too distracted by pop culture and image and money and fame and attention. They are blinded by meaningless constructs while the “ill” are on a conquest for the deeper meaning of their own existence. And that’s ok. To each his own.

So what needs to change?

We as a society need to become more welcoming and accepting of different thought processes. We need to break the stigma that just because someone thinks differently they have a mental illness. We need to all come together and embrace diversity and find a place for everyone.

I will continue to believe that anyone who has ever been diagnosed with any kind of mental illness has rare gifts to share with this world. I will continue to encourage society to see things through different perspectives. And I will continue to proclaim that mental illness is a superpower.

To all of you out there who have been diagnosed with any form of mental illness, please know that there is nothing wrong with you. You’re beautiful and different from the rest. Don’t ever try to fit in. Because you are too special for that! Instead, learn more about yourself and the way you think and use it to your advantage. And ALWAYS use your superpowers for good!